The Most Common BDSM Punishment Ideas

During BDSM play, you take on the role of a dominant or a submissive. These roles can change during the play, but one side is in charge. The side in charge will often need to punish the submissive makes a mistake or violates a rule. What kinds of punishments can you use though?

Let's explore the deep world of punishment by going over some of the basic punishment ideas in BDSM.

Spanking

One of the most classic punishments in BDSM is spanking. It isn't just for kids who have misbehaved, it is also for subs. Spanking can be done in a variety of ways, from hard slaps to light taps. Over the underwear, under it, even over the pants. Your sub can also beg for the spankings to stop while they are happening, not every punishment allows for that.

Butt Plugs

Not everyone is into anal play, but many people are into trying out butt plugs. Having your sub where a butt plug for a whole day though, will excite them throughout the day. Whether they are working or going out shopping, they will have to embrace the butt plug inside them.

Denial

Every sub has something that they want. During the scene, the most common thing to deny is an orgasm. That isn't always the punishment you want to go for though. You can use chastity belts or even deny them sexual attention. Not all of your punishments have to be sexual either. Denying the ability to stay up late or to use their phone are also popular options.

Discomfort And Humiliation

Why not take punishment as a chance to push your submissive to try something that makes them uncomfortable or even humiliates them. From cross dressing to areas that your sub hasn't explored, talk through limits before you start. If you are going to have public humiliation you need to make sure that it is either appropriate or something that won't force people to be involved.

Time Alone Or Time In The Corner

Another great punishment idea that is related to the last category is time alone or time in the corner. Tell your sub to go in the corner and face the wall or to get on their knees in the corner. Or, have them spend some time in a room alone while you pleasure yourself.

Errands And Chores

No one likes to do their chores and errands, that is one of the reasons they make such good punishment. Cleaning the house is a great punishment, and it can be done nude or in a special outfit to heighten the experience. Try to add a flare to the punishment by incorporating signs of your submissive's submissiveness.

Write An Essay

Remember back in school when you had to write an essay in order to make an argument? The joy is that you get to assign the essay, on whatever topic you want your submissive to write on. Two of ours are: Why does your submissive deserve punishment and what is the purpose of punishment. Your submissive should be instructed to take the essay seriously.

Punishment in BDSM isn't all about causing pain or doing something that your partner doesn't like. You are doing something that will both make your partner feel punished but also to turn them on at the same time.

There are a wide variety of punishments that you can select from when you are learning about the BDSM world. It will take you time to learn what both you and your sub enjoy. Exploring is half of the fun though. Make sure that you talk through the punishment ideas before you start your scene. You want to establish what is fair game and what isn't. This will help to prevent turn offs while the action is happening.

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