BDSM stands for Bondage, Discipline, Sadism, and Masochism. While many people who have never tried BDSM think that it only includes bondage, the term applies to a wide range of activities. BDSM includes activities such as:
- Bondage
- Humiliation
- Domination/submission
- Sadism/masochism
- A number of other kinks
More and more people are hearing about BDSM and want to try it out. A good majority of those who try it, really enjoy it. Those who haven't tried it always wonder why people enjoy it so much. Today we are going to take a look at some of the various reasons people enjoy BDSM so much.
There Is A Little Something For Everyone
One of the biggest reasons that people love BDSM is that there is a little something for everyone. With all of the different activities that BDSM incorporates, there is little surprise that there is a niche for everyone. Just because someone doesn't like one aspect of BDSM doesn't mean they won't like another.
BDSM Builds A Level Of Trust
The actions that you undertake in BDSM involve trusting the other person. Will they let you out? Will they spank too hard or just right? All of this needs to be taken into mind. Over time of performing BDSM your existing trust level continues to go up.
At the same time, this also means that you should only perform BDSM with people that you trust. Even as a dominant person it is wise to pick a submissive that you trust.
The Power Play Is Sexy
During BDSM one side typically plays as the submissive and the other as a dominant. That means one side is in control while the other is not. For both sides this power play is sexy. It feeds into most people's desires. Turning over control or receiving it is one of the most human desires out there.
You would also be surprised by the number of people who prefer a different role when they engage in BDSM then they take in the rest of their lives. BDSM gives people who are submissive in the rest of their life, a chance to be dominant. That is also a major allure.
Try Anything That You Want
Part of BDSM is that you get to try whatever you want. You can be yourself of course but there is more than that. You can role play if you want. Role playing during BDSM can include just about anything. Some of the more common BDSM roles include:
- Teacher/student
- Father/daughter
- Strangers
- Kidnaping
- Cop/criminal
These are just some of the most common roles. As you get out there you will find even more.
Fictionalization of BDSM
Recent fictionalization of BDSM has attracted the attention of a lot of people. While not a real portrayl of BDSM, these fictionalizations have gotten people interested enough to try out BDSM. Only then they start to like it. One of the most popular fictionalizations of BDSM is the Fifty Shades of Gray series. While entertaining, the fake BDSM in the story is more like abuse and less like true BDSM.
BDSM Meetups
Many cities now have BDSM meetup groups where they get together and just socialize. During these meetups there are also times to teach and learn others about different BDSM techniques and tips. There is a lot you can learn from the community. Sometimes these meetups even involve group play or group experiences. It depends on the group, the event, and you.
For some people the idea of a BDSM meetup is a bit intimidating. But the community is very good at keeping everything private. At the same time they are also very good at welcoming in new members. In fact, they often have new member introductions which are intended to help break the ice and bring people in.
BDSM is quite a fun arena of sexual activity. People have been jumping on the bandwagon of engaging in BDSM a lot recently. You don't have to worry about finding a partner for BDSM dating with how many people are out there. You have a variety of different ways at your fingertips to find people such as specific dating sites, hookup sites, friends, your current lover, etc.