5 Basic Tips for You to Get into Becoming a Dominatrix

In the world of BDSM there are two roles, dominant and submissive. For a male you call them a Dom or Dominant but when the woman is dominant, she is often referred to as a dominatrix. There are many reasons that a woman may be attracted to the role of dominatrix and a man to that of submissive, or sub. From wanting to try new things to the excitement.

No matter what your interest in domination is, everyone starts out with no experience. If you are looking at how to become a dominatrix, you have come to the right place. We are going to cover some of the best tips for starting in the world of female femdom.

Become Dominatrix

Start Researching Domination

One of the first steps you should take is to start to read about domination online. By reading this article you are already part of the way down that journey. However, there is a lot to learn in the BDSM world and many people who have been living the lifestyle for ages still consider themselves learners.

Take the time to start reading about the different roles. After that, it is important to get to know some of the common rules. With the knowledge of the common rules, your interests, and your partner's interests you will be able to develop your own rulesets.

Determine if You Want to be a Dominatrix for Fun or Profit

Some people who want to be a dominatrix are just looking to dominate their partners or others for fun. On the other hand, there are plenty of women who work as professional dominatrixes both in-person and online. One of the things that you need to decide before becoming a dominatrix is whether you want to become a professional dominatrix or one for one.

It is important to note that a professional dominatrix charges for the experience of being dominated not for sex. Most Dominatrixes will not have sex with clients.

Just a heads up that you will typically have to put a bit more work into becoming a professional dominatrix as you will need to set up a business plan, professional profile, get a good webcam, prepare for taxes, etc.

Learn to Communicate

Many people find it to be difficult to communicate about topics such as sex and BDSM. For a Dominatrix, you are going to need to know how to talk about these topics with your subs and even with potential subs. If you aren't already good when it comes to discussing sex, BDSM, and anything else that might include, we highly recommend that you start to find ways to practice such as using chat rooms to become more comfortable.

At the same time, it is important to realize that comfortability doesn't always come right away. Through experience and learning you will start to become more comfortable talking with your partner(s).

Get Any Tools Or Toys You Might Want

Tools and toys are popular aids in the world of BDSM. While some submissives might have their own toys, some expect their dominant to bring toys. As a dominant, and someone who likes kink sex, you should have a collection of your own toys for fun.

Sex toys can be expensive but buying quality ones can make the experience more enjoyable. Imagine feeling a poor quality toy during a sex scene, doesn't sound fun, does it? The other downside of cheap toys is the risk if they break. A toy breaking inside your sub can cause great harm.

Here are some common toys for starting out:

  • - Whip/Crop/Cat O'Nine Tails
  • - Rope
  • - Bondage Tape
  • - Blindfold and Gag
  • - Lube
  • - Strap-on
  • - Dildos

Finding Submissives

It wouldn't be possible to be a Dominatrix if you didn't have at least one submissive. You will need to find your submissives so that you can enjoy yourself. If you are in a serious relationship you are in luck that you can just talk with your partner. For others though, they don't have that option. Most people don't feel comfortable going up to strangers or asking someone you just met about their sexual preferences. Where do you find a submissive then?

  • - Traditional Dating Sites
  • - Dominatrix Dating Sites
  • - Fetish/BDSM/Kink Online Communities
  • - Adult Chat Rooms
  • - Local Fetish/BDSM/Kink Events
  • - Bars

If you are becoming a professional dominatrix then you can find customers in a variety of places. Here are just a few:

  • - Creating a personal website
  • - Creating profiles on domination websites
  • - Putting out ads
  • - Having a webcam show
  • - Going to kink and BDSM events

The tips you read here are just some basic things you can do to get into becoming a Dominatrix. Keep in mind that it is a lifelong process and that is part of the fun. Dominatrixes constantly get to find new things that they enjoy. Make sure to take a look at some of our other BDSM and kink articles to learn more.

Also read: 4 Ways to Find A Dominatrix Near Me

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