It is normal to be curious about anything sexually related. That includes BDSM. If you are curious about BDSM you will likely find it somewhat overwhelming. There is a lot to think about and experience when it comes to BDSM. To help those who are new to the lifestyle we have created a quick guide of things to try for newcomers to the world of BDSM play.
A lot sounds exciting in the world of BDSM. Many times you will find intense BDSM scenes alluring. Just because these scenes are alluring, doesn't mean that you should just jump in. BDSM quickly becomes overwhelming, even if you think it won't. Take the time to slowly move into BDSM. Start simple and small and you will find yourself enjoying the experience more.
Slow also leaves you with something to look forward to in your next scene. If you do everything you want to try right away you might find that you are lacking ideas for future scenes. Just give yourself a moment to enjoy what BDSM has to offer.
Spanking
Spanking is one of the lightest BDSM activities that you can enjoy. It ranges from the softest of taps to spanking that leaves a mark. If you really want to step up your game, you can also add in a paddle or whip to spank your partner.
Collaring
Collaring is one of the most basic parts of BDSM. The idea is as simple as it sounds, you give your submissive a collar that they must wear. This collar represents the Dom/sub relationship that you have established. Collars can range anywhere from a simple piece of metal to more elaborate locking devices.
It is important to establish whether your submissive is going to wear the collar at all times or if they are only going to wear it during scenes. This is especially true of collars that look more like a collar. You want to make sure that your submissive is comfortable and enjoying themselves, just like you are. As long as that is something they are looking for.
Biting
Biting is another pain oriented kink that can be a great intro to bondage. You can bite just about any part of the body and exploring the body with small bites can be a great way to find the parts of your partner's body that are most sensitive.
When biting make sure that you are not biting harder than your partner would like. Certain areas of the body, such as the testicles and Adam's Apple should be avoided, as permanent damage can be done. Make sure that you are not drawing blood or leaving marks unless your partner is comfortable with it.
Bondage
Bondage is another one of those basic BDSM activities that you can try. Trying bondage can start out as having only your hands tied and as you start to explore you can experiment with more and more limbs tied. You can also move from rope to chains or handcuffs. Bondage in itself is an artform. Many people come up with really creative bondage forms and this could be something that you could try.
It is important to note that like every other part of BDSM you have to be able to trust the person who is tying you. You will be in a quite exposed position when you are bound. It will likely help to at least try spanking or another activity before bondage.
Breast Play
There are a lot of things that you can do with the breast. Biting like we mentioned above is just one. Some women also like to have their breasts bound, it creates a unique feeling that is hard to replicate. Breast pain can also be unusually stimulating. Wax play on the breast, whipping, clamps, temperature play, and more can all be ways to create an enjoyable level of pain on the breasts.
Go slowly when engaging in breast play as the breasts can be extremely sensitive compared to other parts of the body. You want to make sure that your partner is enjoying everything just as much as you are.
Chastity
Not all of BDSM is about being able to get off. In fact, there is a whole part of BDSM that is about not getting off. This is chastity. Chastity is the act of restricting someone's ability to play with themselves. From chastity devices to ordering your partner not to touch themselves, there is a lot to be explored here.
Chastity is a great activity for those who are looking to take BDSM out of a simple scene and into more of a role. You can leave a chastity device on between scenes for a heightened level of excitement.
Breath Play
Breath play is going to be one of the most dangerous, yet one of the most common, activities that we are going to talk about on this list. People define breath play differently depending on their kinks so it is important to clarify before beginning. In general though, breath play is the act of controlling how your partner is able to breath. The most basic form of breath play includes choking with your hands. There are more extreme versions but this is only to be undertaken once you have had the time to explore the world of BDSM.
For those going into breath play make sure that you are always aware of your partner's ability to breath. Cutting off air completely can do serious damage to the body. You are only looking to limit the amount of air that the body can get. And no matter what, if your partner says stop, stop. End of story.
BDSM is a big world and there is so much to try. Before picking something from this list, we recommend talking with your partner to see what might excite them the most. You might find that you have things in common. You might also find that there are things that you never considered before that you find exciting. One of the number one rules of BDSM is that you maintain an open line of communication and that is all we are referring to here. Enjoy yourself and be safe!