Findom is short for financial domination. BDSM is a big world and this is one of the many areas that people enjoy. As the name implies, financial domination is the act of controlling money. It can take a variety of forms and people from all walks of life engage in findom from the rich to the poor. To help you better understand what findom is we are going to take a look at answers to the most common questions related to findom.
How Does Findom Work?
Everyone's findom relationship is different. Before beginning a relationship in financial domination the partners will talk to each other and discuss what they are interested in. Talking about what you want helps to ensure everyone enjoys the experience and no one crosses the line.
Findom can involve taking money through a service such as Paypal but it can also be giving cash to a dominatrix in person. The amounts also vary greatly based on the people involved.
People interested in findom find their partners in all the same ways that people find partners for other BDSM activities. The internet, kink sites, bars, events, and meetups are just some of the places that findom relationships start.
What Are The Roles In Findom?
There are two roles in the world of findom. The dominant role is the financial dominatrix. They control everything and give orders. They will likely give instructions for their partner to give them money but sometimes money is given up as offers too.
On the other side of the spectrum is the pay pig. The pay pig is the submissive member of a findom relationship. A pay pig's job is to do as they are told and to give up their financial control to a dominatrix. Despite the pay pig being submissive they also have a level of control on the situation. If they don't pay, then the session or relationship ends.
It is important to establish some level of trust in a findom relationship. Especially if you are in person or you give access to your financial accounts (which isn't recommended) to someone.
What is the Attraction of Findom?
Findom comes down to being about the play of power. The pay pig gets off on the joy of releasing control of something important, their finances. The dominatrix enjoys taking the power away and the money they earn. In addition to these attractions to findom, everyone has their own desires and likes. They bring with them their own interests when they come into the findom world.
Do All Domination/submission Relationships Involve Findom?
A common misconception is that because someone is submissive (or even dominant) they like any kind of power play. This isn't true. Everyone has their own kinks and enjoyments when it comes to BDSM. At times this can make it hard to find a partner that is also interested in what you are but there are always people out there that will share interests, the trick is finding them.
Also read: A Beginners Guide To D/s Relationships
Does Findom Have Limits?
Limits are important in any BDSM relationship, that includes in findom. Every financial domination relationship though sets their own limits. Before even getting physical it is important to discuss these limits so no one oversteps. Again, this is why there must be a level of trust involved in a financial domination agreement.
What Kind of Money is Involved in Findom?
People always want to know how much money changes hands in the world of findom. It depends on the two people involved. In some cases, ten's of dollars are exchanged but in others thousands. The level of control and income are two of the main deciding factors that play into how much money gets involved in the world of financial domination.
Does Findom Only Happen in Person?
To those who aren't part of the findom world, it often sounds like findom is something that could only happen online. In reality, findom happens online, in person, and even over the phone. Financial domination has been around since long before the internet came around. However, now that the internet is here more findom relationships have emerged as it makes it easier to connect with financial dominatrixes than ever before.
Findom is a bigger world than most people expect when they first learn about it. Whether online or in-person, having your finances controlled (or controlling someone else's) can be very interesting. The effects of findom bring in interesting feelings compared to other types of domination and submission.