BDSM is a large world. It contains almost any kink that falls under Domination/submission, bondage, and more. When you engage in activities in the BDSM world it can be quite fun to try roleplaying, taking on the role of a character. Roleplay is a common practice despite the fact you have probably heard plenty of jokes about it.
For many people they have not tried BDSM roleplay let alone any sexual roleplay. Without experience it can be awkward to start and maintain scenes. Today we are going to take a look at some ways that you can make roleplay work during BDSM play.
Understand You Are In It Together
The first thing that you need to do to make roleplay in any situation work is to understand that you are in it together with your partner(s). If you both agree to something and you are consenting adults looking to explore there should be no judgement involved. People who engage in BDSM roleplay for the first time often wonder if their partner will judge them.
The truth is that in most cases your partner will not judge you. However, there are always exceptions to the rule and jerks out there. If someone judges you during roleplay for something you say or do, they probably aren't worth your time anyways.
Mistakes Happen
One of the biggest things you can do for your whole life, not just for BDSM roleplay is embrace the principle that mistakes happen. We are only human and from time to time we are all going to goof up. No one should kick themselves when they make a mistake. Instead we should do our best to not let it happen again.
Unless the mistake completely takes you both out of the roleplay just ignore it and keep going. You can talk about the roleplay afterwards and that will keep the experience enjoyable.
Discuss the Roles Upfront
Before engaging in BDSM roleplay one of the things you should do is discuss your roles. Everyone should be comfortable with the roles. Start with who is going to be dominant and who is going to be submissive. Then pick roles such as Teacher/student, Cops/robbers, and more.
There are quite a lot of roles available out there as the imagination is the only limit. Trying something new every time will help to keep BDSM roleplay possible because it won't get old. It may help to come up with a list when you aren't trying to roleplay in the moment. Having a list will make it easier to decide what you want to engage in.
Know That Anyone Can Say Stop
Sometimes roleplay can be intimidating. People get caught up in the roles and it makes them uncomfortable. Your partner may also push a roleplay beyond your limits. While it is important to try new things, it is also important to know that anyone involved can say stop.
Before starting a roleplay it is common practice to come up with a safe word. The safe word indicates that it is time to stop. Some partners decide on a safe word but then also a caution word and slow down word. This helps to keep communication even clearer and to maximize the chances of staying in the roleplay.
Be Open To Trying Something New
We briefly touched on it above but being open to trying something new is important when it comes to enjoying yourself. You may find that you enjoy something that you didn't expect to enjoy before. An open mind also leads to being comfortable trying things that your partner might be interested in.
It is important to state when you are uncomfortable with something. Even if you are open to trying it. That allows you to talk about it and come up with ways to make you more comfortable during the play.
Take Time For Aftercare
After you are done with your adventures it is important you take the time to perform aftercare. Aftercare has two parts to it. One is making sure that you clean up physically around your play space. The other is to take a moment to get your mind out of the roleplay. Talk about what you liked and didn't like with your partner and then take a moment to meditate or otherwise relax. Everyone has a different way of coming out of a scene but it is important to take care after or the scene may stick with you longer than you think.
Take these tips to heart and you will find that roleplay can be very fun, in and out of the bedroom. Talk with your partner about roles that you both might find exciting. The options are pretty much endless. Want to share a roleplay idea? Let everyone know in the comments down below.