Femdom Lifestyle - 5 Guidelines for Beginners

Femdom lifestyle is the world of female domination and there are many people out there that are interested in it. Dominant is the person who controls the relationship and the submissive is the one who enjoys being controlled. Most people tend to think that the man should be dominant in a relationship so people tend to not talk about the world of femdom. However, the vast majority of people find that a femdom relationship can be quite exciting once they try it.

So how do you get into a femdom relationship? How do you get started? Let's take a look.

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Find a Femdom

The obvious first step to any relationship is to find a partner. Whether you are a female dominatrix or a submissive, one of the easiest ways to find a partner is to use a BDSM dating site. Look for online femdom or femdom dating. Many of these websites make it much easier to find a partner as you don't have to try and meet someone randomly at a bar then find out whether they are interested in femdom lifestyle or not.

Another option for finding a femdom is to look at local community groups that host events and classes. These can help you to find people near you but not everyone is comfortable going to them, especially going to them alone.

Talk First

Before engaging in any BDSM related activities you should always talk about the activities first. During that talk you will be able to establish what activities you are most interested in and you will be able to let your partner know that you are new or relatively new when it comes to the world of femdom. This will help them know how to approach the scenes you will be experiencing.

There are two important rules that you will want to set up. The first thing you will want to set up is limits. Limits help to establish boundaries of things that you are not interested in and/or don't feel comfortable trying.

In addition to limits, it is important to create a safeword. This is especially important for those who are just starting out in BDSM. The safeword is a sign to your partner that you need to stop for any reason. For example, if you get too overwhelmed with a situation, you can use your safeword to tell your partner to stop. It is good practice to have your safeword be something that will not normally come up during a scene such as "sparkly unicorn."

Do Some Research on the Internet

Taking a little time to perform some internet research on BDSM can help to further prepare you for a Dominant/Submissive relationship. One of the best things to start reading is articles on what is expected of a female dominatrix or what is expected of a male submissive. This will help to give you an idea of how to start.

Another area that you might want to research is some basic femdom tasks. Even as a submissive male you it can be good to have a few extra ideas in your back pocket. This will help to prevent you from having an awkward moment where a new person may not know what to do.

Ease Into It

BDSM can be quite overwhelming if you are not ready for it, especially for submissive men who are used to having to take the role of being in charge in the other areas of their lives. Even the person in control can get overwhelmed easily as they may not be expecting the sensations or feelings they experience. When you are just starting out in BDSM make sure that you ease into it and look for simple things to do such as maybe light bondage, spanking, or name calling. Of course this all depends on both you and your partner's kinks.

Go With The Flow

It can help to not overthink any BDSM scene if you want to get the most out of it. This means instead of trying to analyze the scene, go with the flow. If you are the sub, do as your dom says, and for the dom, try to give orders that go with the flow of the scene, not just try random commands that feel like they fit.

The world of BDSM is huge and there are so many different things to try, as a beginner in the world of femdom, there are plenty of things to try and many things to be excited about. Welcome to the world and we hope that you are able to quickly find a femdom or sub. Just remember that a BDSM dating site is often one of the best ways to find one.

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